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Happy National Coming Out Day

What's your favourite coming out moment on film? Or an outing if you wanna get all Lady Bird about it.

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"Love, Simon".... of course we can't all have parents as lovably adorable and accepting as Josh Dumahel and Jennifer Garner... ;-)

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterME

This question made me want to re-watch IN & OUT so I'll say that one

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterJason

First thing that came to mind:

The offscreen “I’m gay, bitches!” in Easy A, where he runs off with an older black guy, and Emma Stone says “my apologies to Mark Twain.”

Favorite, though: either But I’m a Cheerleader or Beginners.

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterJames from Ames

Kevin Kline In and Out plus Tom Selleck as the Top in that movie.

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered Commentermarkgordonuk

"Easy A" will always have a special place in my heart because of how I used it to come out to my best friend at the time. She the first person I ever told I was gay.

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterCláudio Alves

The first thing that came to my mind when i read the title is the funny scene when Adam comes out to his family in 4th Man Out.

But my favorite moment is from the Uruguayan film Leo´s Room. He comes out without saying it literally, his inmediat reaction feels very authentic and the response from his therapist is priceless.

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterCésar Gaytán

Definitely Pride, where Bill Nighy and Imelda Staunton are making the sandwiches and Bill Nighy just says, "I'm gay" kind of out of the blue and then the camera lingers on them making sandwiches for another 20 seconds. It's honestly so restrained and poetic; it's one of the many lovely resolutions of the many, MANY satisfying character arcs in that movie. A+

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterTim

I don't know if it's truly "coming out," but Darling (1965) remains my favorite movie for its casual, matter-of-fact depiction of an openly, unabashedly gay character. That he happens to be the best friend and confident of the film's protagonist/anti-heroine, 30+ years before My Best Friend's Wedding, is treated frankly but lovingly. That he manages to have his own romantic life and agency is even today sadly remarkable in cinema.

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterMareko

"So do I" - Cabaret

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterBen

1998's Edge of Seventeen. When he comes out to his mother.

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterReady

I’m cheating because it’s TV, but Southland’s John Cooper. The character was unlikely, the tension around his personal choices was so big and central to his relationship with his partner, that when he came out it was both a relief for the audience and a non-event for the character in one of the more nuanced depictions of a coming out scene.

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterG.ShaQ

I know this film is not liked by many and it is a terrible film but Ving Rhames in I Pronounce You Chuck and Larry is the best thing in that film and him coming out to Adam Sandler was hilarious... "Me too, I'm gay!" He then tops it all off where he arrives in the shower butt-ass naked, bending down with fireman looking at the tattoos on his ass that says... "bad" and "ass" as he gets a glimpse at them and then sings "I'm Every Woman".

October 11, 2019 | Unregistered Commenterthevoid99

Joe E Brown in Some Like it Hot. Billy Wilder didn' t know what he was doing. I mean he knew, but not much.

October 12, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterFeline Justice

@Ready: THANK YOU for mentioning Edge of Seventeen. Such an unknown gem! I revisit it frequently and never gets tired of it.

I second Feline Justice, as Some Like It Hot is probably my favorite, but the one that had the biggest impact on my sixteen or seventeen year old self was Gaël Morel coming out to his reflection in André Téchiné's Wild Reeds.

October 12, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterFrenchToast

The first one that comes to mind is the first one I ever saw, Hal Holbrook coming out to his teenage son in a tv movie called That Certain Summer.

October 12, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterJP

The 1998 Edge of Seventeen really needs a revival. It's not only wonderful in itself, but very much ahead of its time.

October 12, 2019 | Unregistered Commenterken s

Mareko: first saw Darling nearly a decade ago. I was struck by how off handedly homosexuality was treated. Truly ahead of its time. Also contains one of my favorite Best Actress wins of all time.

October 12, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterMichael R

I recently watched Indian film Angry Indian Goddesses directed by Pan Nalin in which beautiful Sarah-Jane Dias comes out with her friends playing charades

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October 12, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterJomesRodrigues

When Black confesses to Kevin: “You’re the only man that’s ever touched me. The only one. I haven’t really touched anyone ever since.” A next-level coming out. Moonlight is such a soulful treasure.

October 12, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterNewMoonSon

Agree with Tim...that scene was wonderful!

October 13, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterIshmael

Sean Hayes deservedly won an Emmy for the episode of WILL & GRACE in which he comes out to his mother.

BEND IT LIKE BECKHAM comes to mind. “I like Becks. No, I *like* Becks.” “But you’re Indian!”

October 13, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterJakey

The entire movie Beautiful Thing is one glorious coming out story that is just ... lovely.

October 14, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterCharlieG

Beautiful Thing, yes. The tough, tacky blue collar mom character who fiercely loves her son no matter what is part of what makes that movie so incredibly touching. Anyone who wants to watch a really excellent feel-good film should see this.

October 14, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterRob

1998’s Get Real. It came out around the time I came out.

October 14, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterPatrick

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