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Sundance LGBT Greats: "Love is Strange" & "Appropriate Behavior"

Sundance coverage continues with Nathaniel on two terrific new LGBT films. (This article was previously published in Nathaniel's column at Towleroad)

Alfred Molina & John Lithgow get hitched in Love is Strange's opening scene

I'm popping in, once again, from the snowy mountains of Park City, Utah, where I've been attending the 30th annual Sundance Film Festival. It kicked off the day of the Oscar nominations a week ago and in my golden-statue-mania I keep imagining it would have felt more festive had it coincided with Robert Redford's first Oscar nomination in 19 years for All is Lost. But it was not meant to be. Still Redford's legacy lives on in the most celebrated American film festival. Two of the best films at Sundance 2014 are LGBT films. Hopefully they'll both hit theaters or on demand or however we're watching movies next, and very soon.

APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR is the perfect Iranian bisexual hipster coming-out comedy that you didn't know you needed or even wanted. But it's really good and really funny. The absurdly talented Desiree Akhavan (who some of you may know from the lesbian web series The Slope) wrote, directed and stars in the film as Shirin. She's a sharp-tongued bisexual twentysomething who is reeling from a breakup with Maxine (Rebecca Henderson) her activist vanilla girlfriend, and acting out sexually in Brooklyn.  

More on Appropriate and the possible awards hopeful Love is Strange

Though the film's broader dramatic concern is Shirin's post-breakup tailspin some of the strongest and funniest scenes are flashbacks to her failed relationship. Though Maxine and Shirin are on opposite sides of the coming out process one of the best scenes is their escalating mocking riff on the anti-gay vernacular "nohomo!" used to prove that the person talking is not gay no matter what they're saying or doing...

I like the taste of your dick in my mouth - no homo!"

The comedy is so well written and engagingly acted that it won't even alienate anyone who finds Hip Lesbian Brooklyn as "exotic" as Shirin condescendingly assumes her girlfriend will find her own Persian immigrant community. Remarkably Appropriate Behavior doesn't feel like a vanity project despite Akhavan's multi-tasking and Shirin's arguable narcissistic personality disorder. (Shirin at least would argue that she doesn't have one). Instead it feels like a complete and singular movie, and a gift for anyone who mourns the death of romantic comedies in particular. The Romantic Comedy genre, like Shirin, has been in its own tailspin. Blame its slow death on awful negative gender stereotyping (the gay community isn't the only community damaged by stereotyping) and the simple fact that most of them forget to be both romantic and funny and opt for some halfhearted stab at one or the other. If they're not both, they're failing. (In a merciful twist of fate, comedies need not be about successful relationships to be romantic. Just ask Woody Allen's 70s masterpieces.) Shirin and Maxine's flashback meet-cute scene on the steps of a brownstone is one of the funniest and most flirtatious I've ever seen in the genre, gay or straight or any point between on the spectrum of sexuality. The jokes, while funny on their own, are steeped in character detail -you can see the seeds of the eventual breakup right then and there but you still want to go straight to bed with it.

Grade: B+
Distribution: Not yet but here's hoping. Desiree deserves a broader audience. 


Lithgow, Molina and Tomei photographed by Larry Busacca for Getty ImagesMeanwhile, on the dramatic side of gay cinema, Ira Sachs' LOVE IS STRANGE is an absolute winner. It could even make a dent in the next awards season if it's handled well when it hits movie theaters. Sachs, an out gay filmmaker who both writes and directs, has received good to great notices in the past (particularly for the recent addiction drama Keep the Lights On which many critics loved but which I thought suffered from monotony and shapelessness) but there will be few contesting that Love is Strange isn't his finest film yet and a major leap forward. 

Love is Strange opens with the wedding of senior citizens Ben (John Lithgow) and George (Alfred Molina, never better). We meet their network of friends (most notably Cheyenne Jackson and Manny Perez as gay cops that the old husbands affectionally refer to as "The Policewomen") and family (Darren Burrows, Marisa Tomei, and Charlie Tahan play Ben's relatives) but the shared nearly utopian happiness of the wedding is soon brushed off by harsh realities and then basic truths about cohabitation, advancing age, and dependence. Through a quick series of unfortunate and anger-inducing circumstances the couple, still deeply in love nearly 40 years on, are suddenly living separately  -- George with the cops and Ben with his relatives. While their parallel stories of discomfort in their temporary homes are always interesting in and of themselves the film comes to such emotional and bittersweet life whenever the couple are reunited, that it keeps reinforcing the life-affirming and rarely dramatized truth that romantic love can grow and deepen with time (movies are always about the beginning of relationships) until it's just a part of who you are, as tangible and real as your own limbs.

Two Best Actor Hopefuls for you: John Lithgow & Alfred Molina

Lithgow and Molina have great chemistry, never once feeling less than authentic or desexualized as elderly gay men with a forty-year history. Their lived in duet helps the film transcends the labels I've already placed on it here; it's a gay film, sure, but better than that it's a fully human one. Love is Strange has a lot more than just gay marriage with expansive ideas about aging, support networks and, brilliantly as it winds down, what the young gain from the old -- concerns that can't be reduced by sexual labels.  It fully earned the copious tears and standing ovation that greeted its premiere here in Utah.

Grade: A/A-
Distributor: Sony Pictures Classics is closing on a deal right now. Can they boost its profile enough for Oscar attention next season?

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Reader Comments (9)

Ira Sachs getting a film that might make the rounds in the awards circuit? I cannot think of a more overdue/well-deserved filmmaker getting that shot.

I hope Marisa Tomei's supporting role is good (Because I selfishly want her to get her fourth nomination). But I also want Lithgow and Molina to finally get those great lead role turns in film.

January 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterCMG

This sounds like a great film and I just read that it has indeed been picked up.

You say they are playing "elderly" gay men. Are the characters older than the actors real ages? (Lithgow (68) is four years older than Streep (64) and Molina (60) is 4 years younger. Does this mean you consider Streep "elderly?"Violet Weston is never referred to as elderly. Was Streep playing younger?) Considering all the complaints of JLaw playing characters older that the actress.......... Or is it that you feel gay men reach "elderly" faster than their hetero counterparts? They don't look that elderly in the photos, senior citizens and AARP card holders certainly, but then so is Michele Obama (50).......I mean, MIss Daisy was elderly, Dern (77) in Nebraska is elderly..........Clint Eastwood (82) is elderly....... Bad Grandpa is elderly......... As a gay man over 35 but not dead yet, I'm kind of alarmed............I'm sort of kidding............sort of

January 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterHenry

Henry, the age of the characters is very much a part of the film's DNA so I think it is entirely relevant. However, Lithgow plays a 71-year-old, so...

January 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGlenn

Henry -- their advancing age is one of the main themes of the movie. It would have been exceptionally strange not to mention it. Violet Weston's age is not the point of August: Osage County. fwiw: I'm older than you and these characters are MUCH older than you so if you're feeling sensitive about your age that's on you not this piece ;)

CMG -- Marisa's role is good but the only awards traction we can hope for in acting is the two leads. But since it's yet another two-lead of same gender movie I'll be bracing myself for the hilarious decisions to come about which one of them is "supporting" (barf) -- my guess is that they'll pretend its Lithgow because of my top / bottom rule with gay leads ;) I was right about it with Brokeback

January 24, 2014 | Registered CommenterNATHANIEL R

OK, Nathaniel on Marisa. Forever well-acquitting herself for her unfairly maligned Oscar-winning performance.

But yeah, can we please return to the Thelma & Louise, they're both leads so stop pretending, kind of category placement?

Speaking of Brokeback, I was still so mad that Jake was put in supporting not only because of the category but I much favored Heath in the role. I personally found Jake too twang-y for my tastes (plus I kept on thinking that the low-timbre voice Heath had going made him a better fit for the seductive figure but that's neither here nor there), and that Jake's performance had a much better shot at winning because of the category fraud angered me a bit.

January 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterCMG

I'll be curious to see how they market it. Most 71 year olds I know don't consider themselves elderly. Senior, yes, Its semantics perhaps.

January 25, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterHenry

Henry -- semantics I agree. I actually i didn't really think about the fact that people make these connotative distinctions (but you're right that they do) because they don't *actually* mean different things.

January 25, 2014 | Registered CommenterNATHANIEL R

I thought Tomei was rather good, and has one scene that will have all writers nodding and wanting to shout "Yes! That!" at the screen. I know I did.

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