"Mistress Dispeller" disentangles a love triangle with unfussy depth
Wednesday, October 22, 2025 at 3:23PM by Nick Taylor
Did you know there’s a new romance industry in China called professional mistress dispellers? You should, since our very own Claudio Alves wrote about it last year at TIFF following its premiere at the 81st Venice Film Festival, but if you don’t then allow me to elaborate. Mistress dispellers are hired by cheated-on wives to be inserted in their lives and discreetly end the husband’s affair, without him or his mistress knowing exactly what’s happening. These folks position themselves as new friends or coworkers, employing psychologically manipulative tactics over the course of many months to coax information from each member of the love triangle so they can better dissolve this love triangle. If they do their job right, a dispeller can end an affair without creating any ripples around her identity. It’s one of many modern forms of matchmaking and marital reinforcement taking place in China and around the world.
Few films offer a hook as tantalizing as Mistress Dispeller, Elizabeth Lo’s documentary about one such case of infidelity being infiltrated by Teacher Wang. Miraculously, the juicy premise leads to an even-handed study of all three members of this love triangle, the motives of infidelity, and the processes of maintaining a relationship . . . .